Saturday, January 30, 2010

One of those days

Today started out not like most days. Even though I still had to wake up with the baby at 1:30a.m., I did get to sleep until 8a.m. But, I still don't feel rested despite having slept for a total of 7 and a half hours. I think it's because for the last 6 years and 10 months I haven't had a solid 8 hours of sleep in a night. 

Waking up an hour late, at 8a.m., gives me plenty of time to get in almost a full day of kids and chores before heading off to work, which I don't get to leave until 10p.m. Ugh. Today, however, was a little more trying than most. You see, my darling baby girl does this thing where, if I'm home, she cries ALL DAY until I leave for work. That's difficult enough to deal with but having to hear about how she only does it when I'm around infuriates me. It's like rubbing salt in a wound. It doesn't help, so why do it? Stress and anger. Great way to start the day.

So, here's my question. Why do our "better halves" feel the need to point out things like this, even when they SHOULD know that it hurts us? It's like saying, "yes, you do look fat in those jeans" when clearly they know it will sting. Why not say instead, "they don't seem to fit as nicely as the other jeans," or "how about wearing that dress today?" Anyway, I really don't think I would get so offended if he didn't say it so straight-to-the-point. Maybe say "why don't you leave for work early so you can buy a new wardrobe?" I'd even settle for "she was fine last night. I wonder what's going on?" or "she's been doing this to you a lot lately. What do you think she needs?" Well, I know what I need. And, I think I know why she's crying so much. She's teething and needy so she turns to the one person that is most comforting to her. Makes sense but, man, can anyone else try to help her!?

Friday, January 29, 2010

Welcome moms!

I'm a mom, just like you. And, whether we want to admit it or not, we never have ALL the answers. Half the time I don't even know what the questions are. So, in an attempt to better myself — not only as a mom but also as a woman — I want to put it all out there for you, no holds barred. 

I don't pretend to know it all. I don't even care to give advice. I just want some one in the world to get it, ya know, what it's really like to do what I do everyday. And, maybe, some one can relate to my experience, bringing us closer together as a community of moms.

I have a husband, three kids, two step-kids, a house and a full-time job. I also live about 500 miles away from my family, except one brother. Two kids have asthma, one has Epispadias and another is, well, a crazy one and a half year old. I have a great life but unpredictable and difficult at times. I'm sure you can sympathize!